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Ego Death: What It Is and The Stages You’ll Experience

Emily
last updated on July 12, 2022
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We all have an ego.

It’s what helps us navigate the world, make decisions, and survive.

But sometimes, our egos can get in the way of living a fulfilling life.

Our egos can keep us from growing and evolving into the best versions of ourselves if we’re not careful.

That’s where ego death comes in.

Ego death is when we entirely let go of our egos and experience true liberation.

It’s a process that can be difficult but ultimately rewarding.

In this article, we’ll guide you through what ego death is, the stages you’ll experience, and how to prepare for it.


Table of Contents

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  • First, what is the ego?
  • What is ego death?
  • 5 stages of an ego death
    • 1. Awakening
    • 2. Dark night of the soul
    • 3. Letting go
    • 4. Seek and explore
    • 5. Rebirth
  • How to prepare for an ego death
    • 1. Be open to the process
    • 2. Know what you want to achieve
    • 3. Seek out knowledge and understanding
    • 4. Do deep inner work
    • 5. Trust your intuition
    • 6. Be patient with yourself
  • How do you experience an ego death?
  • FAQs
    • What are the signs of ego death?
    • What happens after ego death?
  • Final thoughts

First, what is the ego?

The ego is the part of the mind concerned with the self, and it is responsible for our sense of individuality. 

It is the “I” that feels separate from the rest of the world and others around us.

The ego can be helpful in some ways; it can also be destructive.

When the ego is in charge, we can become too attached to material things, become greedy, and start to believe that we are better than others.

When we identify strongly with our egos, we tend to suffer.

What is ego death?

Ego death is a process in which the sense of self is dissolved and replaced by a more complete understanding of reality.

Instead of being wrapped up in our own thoughts and emotions, we become aware of the world around us and the interconnectedness of all things.

Those who experience ego death no longer feel like separate individuals but rather part of something much more significant.

This can be a liberating experience, but it can also be frightening and overwhelming.

During ego death, the walls that we have built around ourselves come tumbling down, and we are left feeling exposed and vulnerable.

However, this process is essential for personal growth and transformation.

By facing our fears and letting go of our attachments, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and a greater sense of peace

Ego death is not easy, but it is often the first step on the spiritual journey to enlightenment.

5 stages of an ego death

1. Awakening

The first stage of ego death is often a spiritual awakening.

This is when we start to question our assumptions about the world and our place in it.

We begin to see things in a new light, and we start to question our previously held beliefs.

This can be a disorienting experience, but it is also the first step toward understanding the true nature of reality.

2. Dark night of the soul

The second stage of ego death is often referred to as the “dark night of the soul.”

This is a time of intense fear and insecurity when everything we have held onto in our lives seems to be crumbling away.

It can feel like we are lost in a dark forest, with no light to guide us.

Negative emotions such as depression and anxiety can be very strong during this stage.

If we can surrender to the darkness and trust that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, we will eventually find our way out.

The darkness is not our enemy; it is simply a part of the journey.

3. Letting go

In the third stage of ego death, we start to let go of our attachment to things.

We realize that our possessions, relationships, and even our own lives are not as important as we thought.

We begin to see that we are not separate from the world but rather a part of it.

As we let go of our attachments, we feel lighter and freer.

4. Seek and explore

Things may start to click into place after the shock and disorientation of the first three stages of ego death.

You may find that you seek out relationships, experiences, and knowledge that you previously avoided.

This is because your old understanding of yourself and the world no longer feels valid, so you explore different ways of being to find a new sense of identity.

It is essential to be gentle with yourself during this process, as it can be confusing and overwhelming.

Remember that there is no right or wrong way to do this and that you will ultimately choose the right path for yourself.

Trust your intuition and allow yourself to be open to new possibilities.

5. Rebirth

The final stage of ego death is often referred to as rebirth.

We completely let go of our old identity and emerge into a new way of being in this stage.

We may feel like we have been reborn into a new person, with a new understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

This can be a compelling and transformative experience, but it is also scary and uncertain.

Ego death is a difficult but necessary process that we all go through at some point.

It is not easy, but it is essential for personal growth and transformation.

By facing our fears and letting go of our attachments, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and a greater sense of peace.

How to prepare for an ego death

Ego death is a process of letting go of the limited sense of self that we identify with.

It can be a deeply transformative experience, but it is also often accompanied by feelings of confusion, disorientation, and fear.

If you consider embarking on this journey, it is vital to be as prepared as possible.

Here’s exactly how you can prepare for this massive transformation.

1. Be open to the process

To prepare for ego death, it is important to first cultivate an open mind.

Be open to the idea that your perceptions of reality may change and that you may need to let go of some of your beliefs about yourself and the world.

2. Know what you want to achieve

Do you want to deepen your understanding of yourself?

Do you want to become more spiritually enlightened?

Alternatively, do you simply want to let go of your ego and experience something new?

Once you know what you hope to gain from the experience, you can begin to prepare both mentally and emotionally.

Most importantly, remember that ego death is not about achieving perfection.

It’s about letting go of your attachment to your ego and opening yourself up to new possibilities.

With that in mind, approach the experience with an open mind and heart, and be prepared to let go of everything you think you know.

3. Seek out knowledge and understanding

One of the best ways to prepare for an ego death is to seek knowledge and understanding.

By learning about the nature of the ego, its role in our lives, and how it can be released, we can better understand what to expect.

Additionally, studying the teachings of those who have experienced ego death can give us a better sense of what to expect and how to navigate the experience.

There are many resources available on the subject, so it is worth doing some research.

With a greater understanding of what ego death is and how it can be approached, we can be better prepared for the experience.

4. Do deep inner work

Deep inner work is essential for preparing for ego death.

This means facing our fears, insecurities, and shadow aspects head-on.

It is only by working through our personal demons that we can hope to transcend them.

This process can be painful, but it is essential for growth.

Read our article here on shadow work and also deep inner work for more information on how to get started.

5. Trust your intuition

Your intuition is your best guide when it comes to ego death.

As you prepare for the experience, trust your intuition and allow yourself to be open to new possibilities.

Follow your heart, and let go of any preconceived notions about what the experience will be like.

Ego death is a deeply personal journey, and everyone will experience it differently.

So, trust your intuition and go with the flow.

6. Be patient with yourself

The ego death is a beautiful and terrifying thing.

It’s when you realize that everything you’ve been holding on to is an illusion.

Every belief, every assumption, and certainty dissolve away, leaving you with nothing but raw, naked existence.

It’s a disorienting experience, to say the least.

The world feels different afterward – maybe not in a bad way, but definitely in a way that takes some getting used to.

And so, it’s important to be patient with yourself as you go through this process.

Give yourself time to adjust to the new reality.

Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up without judgment or resistance.

Trust that, in time, everything will make sense again.

How do you experience an ego death?

Before you can experience ego death, you need to know exactly what your goals are.

What do you want to achieve?

What are you trying to let go of?

And most importantly, what are you hoping to gain from the experience?

Ego death isn’t something you can just happen upon- it takes a lot of hard work, courage, and vulnerability.

That said, ego death can be triggered by many things, including near-death experiences, powerful psychedelic drugs, and intensive meditation.

These triggers can create an altered state of consciousness in which the ego is temporarily dissolved.

We can see things from a different perspective and let go of our attachment to our egos in this state.

Once the ego is dissolved, we can see the true nature of reality and our place in it.


FAQs

What are the signs of ego death?

There are many signs that ego death is near.

The most obvious is a sudden and profound change in perspective.

For example, a person who has always been self-centered may suddenly become more interested in others.

They may start to see the world as interconnected and feel a sense of oneness with all beings.

Other signs include a loss of interest in the material world, a loss of fear, and a deeper understanding of the nature of reality.

While ego death can be a frightening experience, it is also incredibly liberating.

Those who have gone through it often report feeling lighter, happier, and more at peace with themselves and the world around them.

If you are experiencing any of these signs, know that you are not alone and that there is support available.

Connecting with like-minded people and your kindred spirits can help you through this difficult but transformative process.

What happens after ego death?

After ego death, there is a period of adjustment as you acclimate to your new way of being.

It can be helpful to spend time in nature, journaling, and meditating during this time.

You may find that your relationships change, as you are no longer bound by the same emotional patterns and behaviors.

This can be both exhilarating and scary, but ultimately it is an opportunity for growth.

As you let go of your old ego, you will be able to tap into a deeper sense of who you are.

This can be a very joyful and liberating experience.

Allow yourself the time and space to explore your new identity.

Trust that you are exactly where you need to be.


Final thoughts

The ego is a complex idea, but in short, it can be described as the sense of self or individuality.

It’s what we identify with as our “self.”

This sense of self can be incredibly strong and protective, but it can also get in the way of experiencing life fully.

That’s where ego death comes in.

Ego death is essentially the experience of transcending the sense of self altogether.

It’s a process that involves going through five stages, and it can be quite challenging for many people.

But if you’re brave enough to venture into the unknown, you may find that there’s nothing more rewarding than an ego-death experience.

Have you ever gone through an ego death? If so, let us know about it in the comments below.

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Emily is the founder, CEO, and writer for AglowLifestyle. A self-proclaimed "lifelong learner", Emily has combined her love of writing with her passion for spirituality to bring you the best articles on the law of attraction, manifestation, affirmations, and more. Emily has helped hundreds of individuals transform their lives through the power of manifestation. Her passion for spirituality and her love of writing have come together at AglowLifestyle, where she strives to provide the best articles on these topics.
4 Comments
  1. Kimberly Johnson

    April 14, 2022 2:38 am

    I am currently experiencing this.At first I had no idea what was happening to me.I and everyone around me thought there was something seriously wrong. I’ve always been a spiritual being but I would say probably about 4years ago was when it started. I have divorced since then and my whole life has changed. I feel like a completely different person. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced but I realize I asked for it.I had no idea what I was asking for but it is what I’ve needed to become a better me.I’m thankful for the experience and I think I am nearing the end of it.For that I am extremely thankful.I can begin my journey in life with a more clear direction and strong confidence,which is what I needed the most.I’m just so thankful to God for his guidance.

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    1. Emily

      April 14, 2022 2:06 pm

      I am glad to hear that you are feeling better and that you have a more clear direction in life. It sounds like you have been through a lot, but it seems like everything happens for a reason. I’m sure you will continue to grow and evolve as a person, and I think that is amazing. Thank you for sharing your story with me. 🙂

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  2. Jason

    March 27, 2023 1:37 am

    Hi Emily,

    This is an experience I had recently…

    I think I experienced Satori after a meditation session a few days ago. I had been reading Suzuki Roshi about being present and simply doing what you do so that was in my head. Then I did Zazen meditation for 30 minutes and when the timer went off I was stunned – it felt like it had been 10 or so at most. I did some bowing feeling totally at ease then went to the rest room (!) and performed my bodily functions without thinking of anything else. Then made a salad – no words or thoughts just doing. I started thinking this is strange… Then I started thinking, but really without word thinking, how all of my memories, my struggles the good that I did the bad that I did, what people had done to me, the things I conquered the things I didn’t were really all bullshit. They were just stories I was telling myself making up this narrative that really was ridiculous. It all was this illusion I made up to create some grand narrative – hmmm… So if all that’s bullshit,
    then what am I? Well I’m nothing I’m just here now experiencing the world. I’m nothing no different than any other experiencing being. Hmm.. Little self was gone – I started thinking ok so I can overcome attachment to outer things, meat, sex, needing approval, whatever, but what I really need to do is overcome attachment to little self, this identity I’ve built up for 50 some odd years. And then I became very afraid, and I say I because it was the I that was afraid. Little self did NOT want to die. I remember thinking I could do it right then and there but holy shit – I’m really going to reject 50 years of building this ediface – all of it. Reject little self

    I felt like little self was fighting – don’t you love me? Aren’t I the hero of the drama? You’re really going to kill me forever? You’re really going to do this? What will life be like without me? And I became ABSOLUTELY TERRIFIED. I felt like if I rejected little self in that moment it might never come back – did I really really want to do that? I would be nothing just experiencing every moment without context. It was terrifying. I thought I don’t think I can do this I’m too afraid, and I consciously let little self back in.

    The whole experience I estimate was about 15 minutes or so of non-self. I think that is what enlightenment is like but I was too terrified to embrace it. The ultimate attachment I think is to ourselves to our identities. I caught a glimpse of it and wasn’t ready, and to be honest I’m not sure I’m ready to go back there. I’m not sure what like without identity would be like – it seemed fine for those few moments, but it absolutely terrifies me. I always thought the idea was to cultivate little self to be compassionate etc. But to destroy it -that’s really heavy stuff

    Anyways – maybe the path forward now is to prepare the way for that because that sudden experience was something I wasn’t ready for
    Thanks for listening!

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    1. Emily

      April 17, 2023 3:50 pm

      Hi there,

      Thank you for sharing your experience with me. It sounds like you had a profound moment of insight and realization during your meditation session, and I can understand why it was such a powerful and transformative experience for you.

      It’s not uncommon for people to experience a sense of non-self or detachment during meditation, and it can be both exhilarating and terrifying at the same time. It’s natural to feel a sense of attachment to our identities and the stories we tell ourselves, but ultimately, these attachments can lead to suffering and prevent us from fully experiencing the present moment.

      It’s important to remember that enlightenment or awakening is not a destination but a journey, and it’s okay if you’re not ready to fully embrace it at this moment. It’s a process that takes time and effort, and everyone’s journey is different.

      You mentioned that maybe the path forward is to prepare for this experience, and I think that’s a wise approach. You can continue to explore meditation and mindfulness practices, and seek guidance from teachers or spiritual communities if that resonates with you. But ultimately, the most important thing is to approach this journey with an open mind and heart, and to be gentle and compassionate with yourself along the way.

      Thank you again for sharing your experience with me, and I wish you all the best on your journey.

      Reply
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